The Art of Imperfection
- Created on Friday, 26 October 2012 15:23
- Written by imperfectme
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A friend of mine is going through a very tough time. Her aged mother, who suffers from dementia, has been cruelly manipulated by two people into doing anything they say. So far they have managed to get her to turn her back on her daughter, rewrite her will, sell everything she owns and hand all the money over to them. What makes this situation even more heart breaking is that my friend is an only child with no other living relatives; all she has is her mom.
We have been in each other’s lives since we were six years old and I can say with all certainty that if her mother were of sound mind she would never turn her back on her. God knows we gave her plenty of reason during our teenage years when we pushed every known boundary, and some unknown ones. Yet through everything she stood by her daughter, never once turning away from her. Now, when it’s time for her to give back to her mother, and give her some of the help she received growing up, some person has stepped in and taken this chance away from her. It doesn’t matter that her mom will never know, or that she is not the same woman she once was, what matters is that these will be the memories that my friend is left with after her mom is gone.
Having never been motivated by money I can’t understand how anyone could do this to an old person. How can you look at someone and realise that they are defenceless and use that against them, isolating them from their family? How can you spend their money without any sort of guilt? How can you threaten their daughter and grandson? Apparently this is not the first time that these people have done this sort of thing so one has to come to the conclusion that they don’t have a conscience, but I for one will never understand it. Money can’t be that important to you.
And so my friend has to fight. She has to get the police involved and have her mother declared incompetent, which is not something that she will do lightly. She has to stand up to a bully and make sure that while she is trying to protect her mother she is also protecting her son. And while doing all this she has to endure her mother saying terrible things about her as she is not of sound mind and has been brainwashed.
It’s not even the money anymore, she is now fighting for her mom and the sad thing is her mom will never know how much she loves her and how hard she fought. She has a long road to go down and I don’t envy her one bit. All I can say is that I hope when this is all over my friend and I can meet for a drink and sit and have a good laugh remembering the good times as those should be the only memories she is left with when her mom is gone.